Skills for living an authentic life 4

In the fourth blog in this series I will be looking at how to listen better to our intuition. In my last blog I wrote about the different sides of the brain; the left side that is logical and rational and the right side that is intuitive. Our inner authentic self is always trying to enter our conscious awareness and intuition is a pretty direct way to do this. Both logic and intuition are useful skills but most of us have come to rely more on logic and we forget to trust our intuition.

Intuition is not solely located in the right side of the mind. It is also in our body, especially in our gut. We get gut feelings that provide us with important information about a situation or person and this information isn’t at all logical. Or sometimes we feel something in our bones or just know something in our heart centre.

Our intuition can also speak to us through our senses – we can receive messages through visions or hearing messages or through an inner knowing – clairvoyance, clairaudience and claircognizance.

There are many ways that our intuition tries to get our attention but we can be more open to accessing our intuition if we have the intention. By intending to be open to intuitive messages and paying attention to them by following through on their messages we allow our inner self to speak with us more directly.

We can use traditional intuitive tools – tarot, runes, oracle cards and the like. These tap into our intuition in quite concrete ways providing us with information that we might not otherwise be able to access. By using these tools regularly we become more practiced at allowing our inner self to speak to us directly.

We can also access our intuition through our dreams and visions. Sometimes there are obvious and direct messages or we can pay attention to the symbols and images. To discover the deeper meanings behind our dreams we might read dream books or see a psychologist skilled in dream interpretation.

Another way that intuition comes to our attention is through intuitive flashes and hunches. A sudden thought might jump into our awareness or we might feel a strong urge to do something spontaneous. These intuitive flashes can lead to moments of creativity as new ideas come to us or might lead us to meet people who help us on our path. Following out intuitive hunches may take a leap of faith but as we follow our intuition more we become more in tune with it and its connection to our authentic self.

Intuition is a pretty direct line to our inner self yet many of us have forgotten how to trust this skill. We rely more on our logic and our rational brain and try to think our way out of problems. We plan out our lives and forget to let spontaneity and creativity help us follow our path more closely.

 

 

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Skills for living an authentic life 3

The third skill for living an authentic life is to do with the mind. I have written extensively about the mind in my book Holistic Medicine so today I am going to just go over some of the basics.

The mind is made up of two parts that I call the right and left side; these correspond roughly to the right and left sides of the brain. The left side is the rational, logical part of our mind and the right side is the intuitive side. The two sides think in two different ways but we have got so used to the incessant chatter of the left side that we forget to pay attention to our intuitive side. Or sometimes we rely too much on our intuition without using our logic.

The left side thinks in words and sentences and follows thoughts in roughly a straight line; this is what makes it logical. Our left side is very useful for solving logical problems and we shouldn’t forget this. It can’t however solve more complex problems that aren’t logical in many ways. Here we need to use our intuitive side. The intuitive side doesn’t think in words but often in images or symbols and often we aren’t aware of it thinking at all, it simply pops the answer to our problem into our awareness.

To help solve our more complex problems we often need to pay more attention to our intuitive mind. This doesn’t mean we discard the logical mind but we don’t try to rely solely on it for problems that don’t have a logical answer. How do we know when something requires an intuitive insight or answer? Usually it is that chaotic process or problem that we get stuck in. Our logical mind is going a million miles an hour trying to figure out the answer and we feel like we are going crazy with all the thinking. This usually means we are caught in the middle of chaos and the only way out is to tap into our intuition.

To do this we may need to spend time trying to help quiet the logical side of our mind – we can do this through meditation and relaxation or we can do it through occupying the left side with a logical task. This might mean distracting it with a puzzle or using it to identify what parts of the problem can be helped with logic.

To tap into our intuition there are many tools we can use such as tarot, runes and oracle cards but often when we bring some quiet to our left brain, the right brain can be heard. The answer may come in meditation or relaxation or in our dreams. But it doesn’t come by thinking more about the problem.

Some times we might rely too much on our intuitive side and stop paying attention to our logical side. This can lead us into problems as we are out of balance if we don’t bring the two sides together. The two sides of the brain are designed to work together and we should never rely on either side in isolation. We can use the logical side for logical problem solving and the intuitive side for providing answers to more chaotic problems.

Both sides are also involved in the creative process with the intuitive side often coming up with unique and seemingly spontaneous new ideas. The left side then tests the ideas for strengths and weaknesses and helps refine them. As we learn more about how the sides of the mind work we can begin to pay more attention to the power of logic and intuition in our lives.

If all this sounds very confusing I go into much more detail in my book Holistic Medicine and that might be helpful to read.

 

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Skills for living an authentic life 1

Well it’s 2017 and time for new beginnings and changes. We all like to think about making changes to our lives at this time of year but so often we don’t follow through on our resolutions. What if our one resolution was simply to be better at expressing our true self? I have been writing some of my new book on Transformation and I have been thinking a lot about how people might be more authentic and true to their inner selves. For most of us this is a journey of discovery about who we really are and who we want to be in the world. Living authentically may seem a bit of a new age cliché but a lack of living authentically is what causes many of the problems in society and many of our personal problems. We are trying to be some version of ourselves that is not who we really are. When we can be the version of ourselves that is truly who we are then life falls into place. Yet we often don’t pay attention to the skills we need to live authentically. Over the next month I am going to discuss at least seven skills that help us live a more authentic life and they are –

  1. Dealing with our emotions
  1. Being aware of our physical body
  1. Dealing with our mind
  1. Listening to our intuition
  1. Following our passions
  1. Cultivating our community
  1. Appreciating nature

Today’s skill is dealing with our emotions.

Young children are usually in touch with their emotions; they feel sad they cry, they feel angry and they yell and throw a tantrum, they feel happy and they laugh. Yet society doesn’t feel comfortable with such overt displays of emotion so most of us are taught that some emotions are not acceptable. We are taught not to cry when we feel sad because it is a display of weakness, that it is not okay to feel anger much less act it out, that even laughter and happiness are not always appropriate. We are taught to bottle up our feelings in many different ways. What happens when we are taught to suppress and deny our emotions isn’t that the emotion disappears but rather the emotion simmers beneath the surface and can erupt if the conditions are right.

Most of us know the feeling of anger building as small frustrations mount up into big frustrations and anger boils over. Instead if we allow our anger to be felt and let the feeling permeate our being we can begin to understand what the feeling is about. As we feel the anger we begin to learn about what is causing it. Maybe it is an injustice that we need to speak up about, or maybe we are allowing people to control us, or maybe we need to change something about ourselves. Emotions are not useless inconveniences they are one way our inner self lets us know when things are going well or not so well.

Feeling our emotions is not always easy especially if they are emotions that have been labeled as bad or wrong at some time in our life. We sometimes have to just sit with our feelings and emotions as they bubble up inside us but if we let ourselves feel them they rarely hang around for very long. As we feel them we can usually become aware of their message. So-called negative emotions are a signal that something is not right. Positive emotions signal that things are on track and that we are following our path. When we experience a lot of negative emotions it is good to pay better attention to them; to actively sit with them and feel them. Usually when we sit with them we discover deeper meanings that encourage us to change things – either the situation or our reaction to a situation or something about ourselves.

There are many ways we try to avoid feelings – we drink alcohol, use drugs, work too hard, project our anger onto other people, gamble too much or sometimes we just pretend that everything is fine and put on a happy face. Instead of avoiding our feelings it is wise to simply sit with them, allow them to have their way with us and experience them more fully. This doesn’t mean acting them out but rather allowing them to move through us. If we have a lot of trouble doing this then sometimes it is wise to see a counselor or psychologist to learn better strategies. I have written more about dealing with emotions in my book Holistic Medicine but there are other books around that have been written primarily on the subject that may be useful, such as Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman. Whatever way you choose to learn more about your emotional self it will help you discover things about your inner self that help you on the path to becoming more authentic.

In my next blog of this series I will discuss how we can be more aware of our physical body.

 

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